I help women heal from the pain and trauma of narcissistic abuse, reconnect with their authentic selves, and learn how to enjoy fulfilling relationships with themselves and others.

I have been a therapist for more than 20 years. More recently, I have specialised in working with women who have experienced narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships, as it was something my clients were bringing to me often, and not just women.

People can be damaged by unhealthy relationships, and these aren't necessarily romantic relationships but with parents, friends, and maybe a boss. Narcissistic abuse can be incredibly damaging to our mental health and future relationships. It's quite common for clients to not even realise that they have been in an unhealthy relationship, and sometimes that is not the reason for them attending therapy.

If you are in an unhappy, maybe controlling, relationship or have just left one, you may be feeling lost and confused, wondering where it all went wrong and what you had done. You may be struggling to connect with others as well as understand yourself. You might feel like you are losing your mind, feel worthless, and struggle to feel positive about the future. Through therapy, I can help you understand what has been going on for you and rebuild the foundations of a strong and healthy relationship with yourself and others. To recognise your values and inner resilience and to eliminate the limiting beliefs that may be holding you back from enjoying fulfilling relationships with yourself and others in the future. You are most definitely worth it.

My Story:

In 1997, at the age of 26, I left my job in a shop to go to college to train in complementary therapies. I decided I wanted to de-stress the world, one massage at a time!
This was a whole new field in the UK, and this was the first time the college had run the course, so lucky for me, it was free. I loved every aspect of the course, from the anatomy and physiology, which was probably my favourite, to the massage and learning about nutrition. Upon completion of the course, I applied to work on cruise ships to gain some experience working in their spas.

It was hard work, and I gained well over a thousand client hours by working 11 hours per day most days.

On my return to the UK, I was still keen to de-stress the world, but now I focused on the mind and enrolled in a diploma course in hypnotherapy and NLP. This course was truly fascinating for me, and I couldn’t wait to get out there and start helping people break down limiting beliefs, improve confidence and anxiety, and have the experience of connecting with their subconscious mind in a wonderfully relaxing way.

I continued to work as a complementary therapist and hypnotherapist for many years and had many regular clients. I worked with businesses, care homes for the elderly, community groups, and charities. I really enjoyed working with those recovering from substance abuse and seeing the pleasure they got from the relaxation and positive contact with another human.

I have a particular interest in personal growth and development, so I have read many books on the subject and am always learning something.
Over the coming years, I learned a couple of energy-based therapies, including Reiki and EFT, which are both amazing. I especially love Reiki.

In 2016, after having my two daughters and watching them grow, I felt it was time for further learning, and this time I went big, taking a BSc Hons degree in Counselling and Psychotherapy. I never thought that I was the sort of person to do a degree, as they were just for clever people, and I wasn’t. No one in my family had a degree, but in order to be who I wanted to be, I needed to just do it, and I did.

You don’t need to be clever to get a degree, but you do need a good amount of discipline, stamina, and resilience. It really did take everything I had. But I passed with a 2:1, which I was more than happy with. I am not the first kind of girl.

Counselling complimented my private practise, and I enjoyed working with clients in a deeper way, helping them to see how their childhood experiences create the person they become as adults, good or bad.

I had always had a keen interest in the mind-body connection since we learned about stress and the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems on my complimentary therapy course. I understood the impact of adrenaline and cortisol on the body and was keen to continue to use my skills and knowledge to help people recognise that they can take control of their physical health and wellbeing by learning techniques to reduce stress and release suppressed emotions that get trapped in our bodies over time, creating physical dis-ease.

This became more important to me when I was diagnosed with MS. I understood that MS is classified as an auto-immune disease that is caused by inflammation. As we don’t really fully understand what causes inflammation in a medical sense, I believe it is caused by stress, which could be repressed emotions or trauma or the impact of our negative thought processes on our physiology. With this being the case, it means that we have much more control and influence over our health and wellbeing than we may have realised previously, and this is why I say that good health includes, but is so much more than, regular exercise and a good diet.

As Medical Intuitive and Author Caroline Myss states - "You can eat a vegetarian diet and run 6 miles each day but if you are in a toxic relationship, hate your job, or have a difficult relationship with your parents, you are losing energy and power in a pattern of behaviour that can lead to illness or prevent your healing from an illness"

Following this, I went on to study for a degree in humanistic/integrative counselling and psychotherapy at the university. This period was also of great value to me as it taught me a lot about how therapeutic relationships are vital for our wellbeing, and I realised I hadn't experienced that in a relationship. This empowered me to stand up for myself and create boundaries.

As a mom of two gorgeous young daughters, it felt so important to me that they understand what healthy relationships look like.

I was required to have counselling as part of my training. I realised it wasn’t my fault. That empowered me to see through the uncertainty and confusion and gave me the strength to stand up and know that my feelings mattered.

Once I began practising as a psychotherapist, I soon started to see clients who presented with similar issues around toxic relationships, often worse than my own situation.

I started reading up more about narcissists and narcissistic relationships. I read, researched, and completed a couple of further courses.

As well as doing all of this research, I also stumbled across a coach who specialised in narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships. I learned through the sessions how to stand up for myself.

Depending on where your narcissist is on the spectrum of narcissistic personality disorder, it may be possible to save the relationship, and in some cases, the narcissist may be up for seeking therapy themselves to save the relationship, but this is rare.

I have found that having awareness of the games that are being played can have a powerful impact on switching from victim to observer in these situations.

While the books and information were meaningful and enlightening, nothing was quite as worthwhile and healing as the coaching sessions with a real-life other person who had also been there. She felt my pain and treated me like a unique individual with my own experience and story. Something that, until this point, I had rarely experienced.

As I was already a therapist seeing clients, and sometimes for this very issue, I decided to train as a coach so I could help my clients heal the way my coach had helped me. The training has allowed me to learn more effective ways to promote healing and empower my clients to leave or stay if they wish.

Coaching therapy really changed my life and gave me the opportunity to help others change theirs too. I am honoured to be able to walk that path with them, and I can do the same for you.

I expect that you are here right now because you too are experiencing the pain, confusion, or trauma of a narcissist. Maybe you know that something isn't right and needs to change. Maybe the universe is telling you that now is the time for you to do something to change the course of your life.

It can be very scary, but it can also be very important for you to be true to yourself and invest in your future happiness. It is never okay for another human being to make someone feel less than, especially those we love. The relationship doesn't have to be with a romantic partner and often isn't; the narcissist in your life could be a parent, sibling, friend, or boss. Either way, the relationship can be deeply damaging to your sense of self.

My qualifications to date;

BSc (hons) Humanistic/Integrative Counselling and Psychotherapy
Level 4 Accredited Coaching Certificate
Achology Life Coaching Certificate
Solution Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT) Certificate
Transforming Trauma Certificate
Dealing with Narcissism Diploma
Positive Psychology Diploma
Diploma in Hypnotherapy
Diploma in Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP)
Certificate in Emotional Freedom Technique
Reiki Master
ITEC Diploma in Body Massage
ITEC Diploma in Reflexology
ITEC Diploma in Aromatherapy
ITEC Diploma in Anatomy & Physiology
ITEC certificate in Diet & Nutrition